When last I shared my thoughts, there were 23 days left in 2011. Fixated on the concept of “new year, new you” I wrote about the ability to reset neural pathways to create new, supportive habits in the new year. I encouraged you to start the process right away, so that 2012 rolled in on a positive note. So, what good would it be if I didn’t put a stake in the ground for myself and change a habit?
For Christmas I invested in the “Insanity” workout program as a family gift shared with my son and husband.
I’ll spare you the details, but needless to say, I started the program on December 15th, my husband and son have yet to begin. And, as of today, I’ve completed six weeks of an INTENSE & INSANE cardio program! I can’t say I’ve enjoyed every minute of it, but what satisfaction I have received is in a noticibly slimmer waistline and, more importantly, in keeping my word to myself. I wanted it, I committed to it and I’m doing it.
Its just as important to keep promises to ourself as it is to keep them for others. However, many of us will sweep our wants, desires, and wishes out the door for someone else. We’re so used to it that it might seem as if we’re being selfish when we do put our needs first.
Putting your needs above others doesn’t need to be an “all or nothing” approach. There are times when it’s the right thing to do; a sick child, an ailing parent, a friend in need, or your job all can take top billing on occasion. Notice, however, if the scale always tips in their favor and not yours.
When you’re ready to take the lead, it might feel uncomfortable at first, so start small. Don’t start with telling your ailing mother you won’t take her to the doctor because your playing golf! Try starting with a simple commitment to yourself, like eating less sugar, adding a second vegetable with meals, walking 30 minutes a day. You get it. Something that’s small, contained, do-able and will make you feel good about yourself.
Build that muscle by exercising it every day, for at least 21 days and notice the shift in self-confidence you feel when you start to keep your word with yourself.