Integrity Starts at Home

One of my roles as a parent is to bring up the best human being as I can.  To teach, to support, to love and to let him falter so that he builds the strength and stamina to lead his own life.

One such teaching moment occured recently with my son.  Now, it’s important to know that integrity is one of the “pillars” in my life.  Do what you say your going to do.  Alas, he’s 17 and clearly still needs to get it!   The long and short of the tale is after numerous mornings of discussing his lateness, and the burden he put on me (and himself- through my nagging irritation!) when I also had some place to be, I told him I would leave at our agreed upon time the next morning.   Well, surprise surprise he got up late AGAIN – 5 minutes before we were supposed to leave the house, to be exact.  And instead of throwing on his clothes and running out the door, he did his usual routine.  This time, however, when he entered the kitchen to announce he was ready, I was gone.  I’ll refrain from boring you with the details, however suffice it to say the lesson was learned.  I stuck to my word and he figured out that his actions have consequences.

How does integrity play a role in your life?  Do you do what you say you’re going to?  Do you keep promises to others but not to yourself?  Are there “incompletions” in your life?  Look across the various areas of your life: health, body, mind, work, home, relationships, your car, legal matters, medical issues, taxes, insurance.  You get the idea. Make a list of the things you need to complete and start making a plan to do it.  Start small, to build some self-credibility and success.  For the bigger items, break them down into manageable pieces and get moving.

Your word is your bond, and is equally important to keep with yourself as it is to keep it with others!


2 thoughts on “Integrity Starts at Home

  1. Thanks Toi! Your story certainly hit home… I was “trained” ad nauseum by my Mom to always be on time. She drilled it in to me how inconsiderate it was to the people waiting for me. And so, it is very difficult for me to tolerate tardiness in the people in my life. Sometimes to the point of being intolerant. IMHO it is a selfish and self-centered habit, and I applaud your stern but gentle lesson to your son. I miss seeing you and hope you are well:)

    1. Hi Stan- Thanks for sharing your story. Its a lesson I think many adults need to learn as well. Miss your warm energy in class, too. Maybe youll be there for the next mornings class. Be well. Namaste.

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