One of my roles as a parent is to bring up the best human being as I can. To teach, to support, to love and to let him falter so that he builds the strength and stamina to lead his own life.
One such teaching moment occured recently with my son. Now, it’s important to know that integrity is one of the “pillars” in my life. Do what you say your going to do. Alas, he’s 17 and clearly still needs to get it! The long and short of the tale is after numerous mornings of discussing his lateness, and the burden he put on me (and himself- through my nagging irritation!) when I also had some place to be, I told him I would leave at our agreed upon time the next morning. Well, surprise surprise he got up late AGAIN – 5 minutes before we were supposed to leave the house, to be exact. And instead of throwing on his clothes and running out the door, he did his usual routine. This time, however, when he entered the kitchen to announce he was ready, I was gone. I’ll refrain from boring you with the details, however suffice it to say the lesson was learned. I stuck to my word and he figured out that his actions have consequences.
How does integrity play a role in your life? Do you do what you say you’re going to? Do you keep promises to others but not to yourself? Are there “incompletions” in your life? Look across the various areas of your life: health, body, mind, work, home, relationships, your car, legal matters, medical issues, taxes, insurance. You get the idea. Make a list of the things you need to complete and start making a plan to do it. Start small, to build some self-credibility and success. For the bigger items, break them down into manageable pieces and get moving.
Your word is your bond, and is equally important to keep with yourself as it is to keep it with others!